The most fundamental right (a freedom that belongs to you by law, nature or tradition) of any person is the right to communicate. Without this freedom, other rights become less.
Communication, however, is a two-way flow. A two-way communication means that you communicate to someone (that is one flow or direction—a message goes from you to another person) and the person receiving the communication communicates back to you (that is the second flow—the other person sends a message back to you). If you have the right to communicate, then you must also have the right to not receive communication from another person. It is this right—the right to not communicate that gives everyone their right to privacy.
These rights are so basic that governments have included them in laws. One example is the American Bill of Rights, which tells people living in the United States what rights they have.
However, groups have always regulated these rights in one way or another. Because when you have the freedom to communicate, you also have certain agreements and responsibilities.
An example of this might be a business agreement. Let’s say a farmer signs an agreement to supply a grocery store with one hundred bags of potatoes. He is responsible for making sure he grows enough potatoes to supply the order. He is responsible for making sure the potatoes are ripe and cleaned. And he is responsible for delivering the potatoes to the warehouse. The buyer is then responsible for paying the farmer for the potatoes. If the farmer does not deliver the potatoes and breaks the agreement or if he delivers one hundred bags that are mostly rotten, the grocery store owner can refuse to ever buy from him again and may in fact disconnect from the farmer.
HANDLE OR DISCONNECT
In PTS Technology, you’ll see the phrase “handle or disconnect.” It means simply that.
The word handle most commonly means, when used in relation to PTS Technology, to smooth out a relationship with another person by applying the technology of communication.
The word disconnect means a person making the decision that he is not going to be connected to some other person. It is when you cut a communication line. A communication line is the route or passage along which communication travels from one person to another, such as e-mail or a cell phone. Communication lines can also include radio, television or movies (films).
Someone who is PTS must either handle or disconnect from a Suppressive Person or Group. And the ways someone can disconnect from an SP follow the same forms of disconnection that are used by people all over the world in various parts of life.
Take, for example, how a criminal is handled. If he will not handle himself and stop doing destructive things like harming other people or stealing, the police and those responsible for making sure the laws are followed have to use the only other available solution: they disconnect the criminal from the society. In other words, they remove the guy from society and put him in a prison because he won’t handle his problem and stop committing criminal acts against other people.
It’s the same sort of situation that a husband is faced with if he finds his wife is sleeping with another man. The very best solution to a problem like this would be to handle the matter with his wife and get her to stop breaking the agreements of their marriage—that they will be true to each other. But if the husband cannot handle the matter, he is left with no other choice but to disconnect (sever the marriage communication lines, even if this is only done by separating from the wife for a while). To do otherwise would be disastrous because he is connected to someone who is being antagonistic (showing irritation, anger or opposition toward someone or something) toward the original agreements, decisions and responsibilities of the marriage.
A person can become PTS when he is connected to someone who is directly antagonistic toward him. To handle the PTS condition, the PTS person either handles the other person’s antagonism or, as a last resort when all attempts to handle have failed, he disconnects from that person. He is simply exercising his right to communicate or not communicate with a particular person.
By applying the technology of “handle or disconnect,” the person is actually only doing the same thing that has been done within any society or group or marriage for thousands of years.
HANDLING ANTAGONISTIC SOURCES
In the great majority of cases, if a person has some family member or someone he works with who appears antagonistic toward him getting better, it is notusually a matter of the antagonistic source wanting the PTS to not get better. It is most commonly a lack of correct information about what the PTS person is doing that causes the problem or upset. In such a case, simply having the PTS disconnect would not help matters at all. It is quite common that the PTS person has just overlooked what he might have done to possibly bring about the problem.
This isn’t hard to understand when you look at these facts:
a. To be PTS in the first place, the PTS must have done something wrong to the antagonistic source.
b. When someone has done something wrong to another person, this lessens his ability to confront (look carefully at) the problem, confront the other person and confront what he has done. It also lessens his sense of responsibility for what he has done to harm the other person.
When anyone using the information and applying the technology on this course to assist someone who is PTS to one or more of his family members, he does not recommend that the person disconnect from the antagonistic source. The advice that should be given to the PTS person is to handle.
The handling is to educate the PTS person in the technology of PTSness and suppression. He then carefully and firmly guides the PTS through the steps needed to bring about good communication with the antagonistic source.
WHEN DISCONNECTION IS USED
If you have someone who is actually connected to a Suppressive Person, such as someone who goes around saying and doing things that make other people around them feel smaller, less able, and less powerful, it is obvious that this Suppressive Person does not want anyone to get better, at all.
In truth, an SP is absolutely, completely terrified of anyone becoming more powerful.
Therefore, the PTS isn’t going to get anywhere trying to handle the person. The answer is to cut the connection.
HOW TO DISCONNECT
How a disconnection is done depends on what is happening and who the people involved are.
For example, let’s say the PTS person lives next door to a psychiatric clinic where insane people are being treated or a prison where criminals have often escaped and he feels unsafe there. He is PTS due to the area where he is staying and what is happening there. The handling is simple—the person can move to another apartment in another location. He need not write any sort of “disconnection letter” to the psychiatric clinic or the prison. He simply changes the place where he is living—which is, in effect, a disconnection from the suppressive area.
Another example could be a business owner who discovers that someone working for him is an SP—the guy steals money, drives away customers, tries to get rid of other people working there and will not correct his behavior no matter what is done to make him stop. The handling is very simple—the PTS fires the Suppressive Person and that’s the end of it right there!
The technology of disconnection is very important in the handling of a PTS. It can and has saved a lot of people a lot of trouble. It has even saved lives. But it must be used correctly.*
*Nothing in this material shall ever or under any circumstances justify any violations of the laws of the land. Any such offense shall subject the offender to penalties described by law.